Someone I was talking to referred to the mom of my kiddos as “people like that.” As in “Well, normally you meet people like that in a public place. You just never know how dangerous they are.” I instantly got defensive. Yes, she has made mistakes, but most of those mistakes were picking a bad guy and she’s been clean for months. She does not have a single violent act on her record. Is that enough to convince me she should have her kids permanently? Of course not. But no one should be referred to as though they don’t deserve to be talked about directly.
She is a person, too. A person who loves her girls more than anything and has been working really hard to get them back. The fact that she has started to clean up her life enough that she has two of the three back (not necessarily forever, but living with her for now) should be admired. She is turning her life around and learning from her mistakes. She’s had a rough life. Does that excuse what she’s done in the past? No. But it also does not make her sub-human. She is not “people.” She is a mom, scared and alone, who just wants her world back in her home.