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Posts tagged ‘Military Wife’

Stay Busy and Find Something to Look Forward To

Well, Buddy is on his way to Altus.  I still think it’s silly that C-17s are the only airframe that doesn’t do the upgrade process in-house.  Maybe that’s because my husband is going during the ONLY time of year up here that we can actually enjoy living here!  Oh well.  I wouldn’t care so much except that our poor dog is refusing to get off of Buddy’s side of the bed.  He knows Dad is gone and is totally depressed about it.  Won’t eat, won’t play, nothing.  It breaks my heart!

The best way I’ve found to deal with the whole husband-being-gone thing is to a) keep busy (yeah, every military wife will tell you that one) and b) find something to look forward to, something to count down to that ISN’T your husband coming home.  Obviously you’re going to be excited about him being back (or, at least, I would hope so… if not, then you’re probably not upset and don’t need to keep busy in the first place).  If you can find something non-husband-related, or at least minimally husband-related, you’ll find a reason to get up in the morning that is not contingent upon the military, and that’s important.  That way, no matter what the military or Murphy are doing to you at the time, you have something that isn’t affected by either one.  For example, I have my job.  I’m looking forward to getting my kiddos back to their mom.  I also have my trip to Texas.  I’m flying down on June 21st, regardless of whether Buddy has graduated from AC school or not.  I get to see my sisters, my parents, my best friends.  It’ll be amazing!

A quick note about the keeping busy advice… Yes, it’s important to stay busy and keep your mind occupied.  However, don’t over-do it!  Make sure you’re taking time to be sad, time to yourself, and time to relax.  Going, going, going for months on end is just going to exhaust you and make it harder to deal with everything that’s going to be thrown at you during a TDY/deployment/whatever.  Find a balance.  It’s okay to let yourself be sad or lonely.  It’s healthy to miss your other half.

That was probably the hardest thing for me to learn.  I thought I had to be totally strong and act like everything was totally normal.  Everything is NOT totally normal when your husband is gone.  It didn’t help that my mom acts like she understands and is anything but sympathetic when I say I’m dreading months away from Buddy.  If this is the case in your life, just don’t talk about it with that person.  Talk about it with people who will help you handle it and make you feel better and more normal, not less.


Whirlwind of a Weekend

It’s been a crazy few days.  Buddy brought me flowers randomly on Friday, which was very sweet of him.  They were so pretty!  It was perfect timing, too, because my tulips were dying (not quite dead, but almost… This will matter in a minute).

We had date night on Saturday, like we try to do before he leaves every time, whether it’s for a week or a month (like this time around).  We went to a steak restaurant and had some delicious food, but more importantly, got some time to focus on nothing but the two of us.

Pretty much describes our relationship perfectly!

Better photo!

We had game night with our wonderful neighbors on Sunday night.  E made dinner (which was amazing!) and we got a lesson in what Mormons believe, which was super cool.  Buddy and I both think it’s awesome that we’ve made so many friends that are comfortable talking about our faith and their’s (even when we don’t necessarily believe the same thing).  E and M (“Military E” not “Neighbor E”) are Catholic and we pray before every meal together, just like we would with our families.  It just makes all of our friends feel that much more like our Washington family.  Anyway, we played Settlers and then Blokus, both of which are REALLY fun!  It was a great evening, as always, and just what we needed before starting a week that was sure to be stressful.

Buddy and I walked in the door to find that the dogs had gotten into my tulips.  For those who don’t know, tulips are poisonous to dogs.  There were tulip pieces, diarrhea, and dog throw-up EVERYWHERE.  I immediately called the vet to find out what I should be looking for and then started the clean up.  We now need to get our carpet cleaned (not even the SpotBot could work that miracle) but the important thing is that the puppies are okay.  I spent last night getting up every hour to check their gums to make sure they weren’t turning white or blue (which would show that they were really sick and needed to go to the ER) so I spent today basically exhausted.  They’re clearly not feeling good, as you can see from the photo below.  Neither of them have wanted to play today; they’ve spent all day wanting to cuddle and sleep.  We’re just thankful that they’re okay and that we still have our boys safe.

Poor sick puppies